More To Life

Sometimes life can get you down. You find it becomes nearly impossible to smile because negativity has infiltrated nearly every area of your life. But believe me, incessantly dwelling on it will only make things harder. I know it can be difficult to try to focus your mind on something else and I often wonder why it is so much easier to dwell on negative things than positive things.

If you’re like me, negativity is what you use to tap into your creativity. It seems emotive language is only available if it has negative connotations and to write something effective you need to entertain these thoughts so they can provide you with a basis for your creative piece. The completion of your piece gives you great satisfaction amidst your sorrow so you do it over and over just to get that moment of contentedness.

I do it. I bet we all do it sometimes. I know the best songs I write are sad, somber, melodramatic and often times depressing. I find it hard to write happy songs. I mean really hard. Same goes with my posts, the majority of them were created in times of uncertainty and disappointment, confusion and lack of ‘happiness’. But I surge on. I’m trying to push away those negative thoughts and I’m learning what it takes to dwell on the happy ones.

So when you say you feel: Worthless, pathetic and completely unloved.  You are so wrong. I assure you. You are worth something. You are not pathetic. You’re good at using emotive language :) and you are and always will be loved, no matter who you are or what you’ve done.

When you see this beautiful quote: “Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”   Please don’t reply like this: “Life is nothing but a boring chain of events.  One after another, the same old thing. The same things, every single day. Lonliness, sadness and disappointment”. Don’t swell on the bad stuff. Dwell on the good stuff. I know it can be hard. I think it’s silly that it takes practise to focus your mind on positive things when the negativity lingers like a pesky mosquito. But you can do it. Work at it!

You’re worth it and you can be so much more :)

Inspiration:

http://mylifethetruth.wordpress.com/2010/10/14/written-by-a-90-year-old-woman-with-my-comments/

Those Thoughts, That Smile…

So what is it that you can’t stop thinking about? Come on, something must come to mind!

Some of the examples the lady gave at the conference are those negative thoughts that run through your head day in and day out, ‘I’m ugly’ or ‘I’m not good enough I’ll never succeed’. Those thoughts can really take hold of you and tear you up inside but there are a few tips in my last post to overcome those thoughts and I pray that thoughts like these never hinder you from being the best that God designed you to be.

I’m not blowing off the importance of those thoughts but I guess I also want to cater for some people with other, more time-consuming thoughts. If you’re anything like me, perhaps what’s permeating your mind is the smile of a certain someone. It’s like you have this replay button in your mind and an incredibly crystal clear image of their eyes crinkling plays over and over again.

Ok so that’s an example of entertaining your thoughts but what about those other times when they just pop up? Perhaps you’re out buying an ice-cream and it triggers the memory of an incident a few days ago and you begin to wonder what they’re up to this weekend.  If you’re anything like me, you won’t be able to help it.

That’s what I’ve found. Two days ago I decided to dismiss my thoughts of him. I realised they weren’t healthy and acknowledged that with God’s help I can take those thoughts captive and overcome them. It’s been working. I finally got some homework done rather than constantly day dreaming. But I have found that these thoughts are so persistent!

They pop up over and over and over and over and well… you get the picture. And over and over I have to dismiss them. I suppose I thought it would be a matter of recognising it was wrong and then I wouldn’t have these thoughts but I’ve found it is a constant battle. Yes I have come a long way in two days but I guess I still have a fair way to go.

So please be patient with me :) I am trying!