Made Of Honour?

Tonight I watched the movie ‘Made of Honour’ with Patrick Dempsey…

Seen it? And what were your thoughts? I didn’t like it. I felt sort of bad, my dad saw it for $5 so he bought it for me as a surprise and it turned out to be a shocker. All I can say is boy am I lucky I forced my 9 year old sister to go to bed!

If you haven’t seen it the story begins with a college guy entering into a girls room and hopping into her bed…

You then see them 10 years later only to establish that he is a total man-slut. I do not care how much Patrick Dempsey’s eyes sparkle. That is just not on for me. Needless to say when his best friend gets engaged he realises he’s in love with her and has a sudden change of perspective on the idea of marriage so the story follows his quest to win her love.

It doesn’t make sense. How could a girl so innocent and seemingly pure be in love with a guy so blantant about his spoiled sexuality? Sure he could be a really nice guy and a good friend. There’s nothing against being friends with those sort of people. But marrying them? That’s another story. Asking them to dedicate themselves to you seems like a pointless task with not much outlook of success.

I know, I know – it’s just a movie but I can’t help but notice the same life style choices made by real people in real life. Real people watch these sort of movies and are told, ‘yeah it’s ok to sleep around. It’s cool to have someone different every night. You don’t have to be committed. After you’ve had your fun, eventually you will find the right person, fall in love and live happily ever after -no regrets.’

Yeah right! For all you girls out there, tell me something and this goes for the guys too. You are worth it. You are worth the wait. Don’t fall for Hollywood’s lies. Don’t play hurtful games. Happily ever after may come for you, and I pray that it does. But if you get tangled up now, it is going to take a lot of extra work to achieve your happily ever after.

Don’t follow the world. Set yourself apart.

This Sad World

I don’t know which emotion is stronger at the moment. Is it the shock or is it the sadness I feel?

If you’ve ever known someone since you were a kid, you’ll understand. There are those few months or years that go by when you barely see them and hardly even notice them and then comes the day when you realise you don’t even recognise them.

Since I joined Facebook, it has been happening increasingly often. I’ll see some friend I knew from primary school snuggled up to their boyfriend or girlfriend in their ‘dp’ or writing about some party they were at last night and how smashed they were. I suppose at first I feel surprised. I’m suddenly aware of how much time has passed and I struggle to face the truth.

The truth is they are from an entirely different world to me. The truth is this is what all their friends are doing, this is what society expects of them. In other words, their behaviour, their emo hair, their piercings and their language are completely normal.

Yet I can’t erase the image of those kids I once knew. That quiet guy who never spoke has suddenly become the city’s most infamous partier and underage drinker, widely known for the capacity he can down. That beautiful girl with the perfect smile is caught smoking on the way to school. Looking back on my kindergarten photos, I never would have known this boy would end up in jail.

Over the years my heart has broken time and again as I accidentally overhear the news that yet another has lost their virginity. In front of my very eyes they all chip in to buy a packet of cigarettes, while we’re at church.

They’re not ashamed! To them it’s normal. It’s expected! They don’t know any better. They don’t know any other way of life. I’ve grown to accept that. It still hurts but I’ve come to terms with it.

Yet here I am, finding myself in the same situation, yet this time it is happening with their younger brothers and sisters. 14 years old and younger! The young kids I once knew are now acting like adults. They’re caking on the eyeliner, drinking in the black hair dye, consuming ridiculous amounts of alcohol and having sex. At 14, at 13, at 12.

What is this world coming to? What is this world we are living in? Can anybody else see it? Because I know it’s not all in my mind.