Made Of Honour?

Tonight I watched the movie ‘Made of Honour’ with Patrick Dempsey…

Seen it? And what were your thoughts? I didn’t like it. I felt sort of bad, my dad saw it for $5 so he bought it for me as a surprise and it turned out to be a shocker. All I can say is boy am I lucky I forced my 9 year old sister to go to bed!

If you haven’t seen it the story begins with a college guy entering into a girls room and hopping into her bed…

You then see them 10 years later only to establish that he is a total man-slut. I do not care how much Patrick Dempsey’s eyes sparkle. That is just not on for me. Needless to say when his best friend gets engaged he realises he’s in love with her and has a sudden change of perspective on the idea of marriage so the story follows his quest to win her love.

It doesn’t make sense. How could a girl so innocent and seemingly pure be in love with a guy so blantant about his spoiled sexuality? Sure he could be a really nice guy and a good friend. There’s nothing against being friends with those sort of people. But marrying them? That’s another story. Asking them to dedicate themselves to you seems like a pointless task with not much outlook of success.

I know, I know – it’s just a movie but I can’t help but notice the same life style choices made by real people in real life. Real people watch these sort of movies and are told, ‘yeah it’s ok to sleep around. It’s cool to have someone different every night. You don’t have to be committed. After you’ve had your fun, eventually you will find the right person, fall in love and live happily ever after -no regrets.’

Yeah right! For all you girls out there, tell me something and this goes for the guys too. You are worth it. You are worth the wait. Don’t fall for Hollywood’s lies. Don’t play hurtful games. Happily ever after may come for you, and I pray that it does. But if you get tangled up now, it is going to take a lot of extra work to achieve your happily ever after.

Don’t follow the world. Set yourself apart.

Tell Her She’s Beautiful

So today you turn 18.

The world is finally at your fingertips but you’ve cheated it for so long.

Is it everything you thought it would be?

I still don’t believe I’m not there with you. I thought I’d be there, by your side. Worrying about you, but still having you. But now I’m not there.

Thinking back to last year. Time as flown by so quick and we are completely different people.

Yet one thing remains. The one thing I always wanted to let you know, encapsulated in a song.

I heard it the day before your 17th Birthday and I figured out the chords so I could play it for you at your party.

I was so excited I just wanted to sing it to you. It was so perfect. But I got really emotional over it so I asked my dad to play guitar. So it could sound its best for you.

But I got to your party and everyone was drunk. sleazy girls threw themselves on boys and some even threw themselves on girls. People were yelling and screaming, bickering and fighting. I just watched with two other guys who also abstained. The song played through my head all night.

But as time passed we got kicked out into your tiny backyard. I got half a dozen different drinks spilt on me and who knows what smoke it was permeating the threads in my scarf. I decided tonight was not the night. I could sing her the song another time. Next year. Yeah her 18th sounded like a better time. People celebrate then. I mean it was only her 17th.

Do you have those feelings of regret? When in retrospect you wish you had have done it. Gotten over yourself and just done it. How was I to know there would be no next year?  That she wouldn’t care for me anymore. That we wouldn’t even be friends.  It hurts but either way my song remains the same. You should listen to it. It might remind you of someone you care for so deeply.

Just don’t let your opportunity pass by.

Sarah McLennan said this of her song:

“Written about a friend of mine. Sometimes you just cant find the right words to let someone know how valuable they are. Sometimes they can forget, or be told otherwise, or never have been told before just how incredibly beautiful they are…just as they are. Dont let someone go through life not knowing their worth. …this is for them, and this is for you.”

Beautiful by Sarah McLennan.